Being Bullied When I was in middle school I was bullied. No one should ever have to go through what I went through as a young middle school child. It can cause a lot of damage to one’s self esteem, and it can cause health problems down the road. Now that I have children of my own, I want to make sure they know that they do not have to go through what I went through growing up and being bullied. I try to make sure that my children know there are ways to deal with a bully. And I try to help my children with recognizing if you are the victim of a bully.
There are several ways that a person can be bullied. I had people calling me names, trying to fight me, and trying to push me down several flights of stairs. The first thing that I want to talk about is how kids would call me names. As I grew up I didn’t have very many kids that were my true friends. Some kids would say that they were my friends, but then they would turn around and talk about me behind my back and that is not someone that is your friend. Kids can be cruel! They will say things to you and about you that can really hurt your feelings.
As we grow up people tell us that words cannot hurt you, but to tell you the truth words can cause a lot of damage to one’s self esteem and mental status. As I grew up I had a lot of mental abuse from other kids. The types of names that they would call me were very hurtful and damaging to my mental status. I was from a lower class, lower income family so I didn’t have the best stuff. And this in my opinion can cause kids to pick on you for just that reason. As to which it would make them feel better than me and make me feel bad about myself. Which, that caused me to not feel very good about myself, giving me very low self esteem.
The next thing I want to talk about is fighting. Some kids would say that I said something, when to tell you the truth I had never said it at all. This would result in these kids wanting to fight me. I don’t believe that fight, at any cost, is the answer to any problem so I would refuse to fight them. I feel you can always turn and walk away from the person who wants to fight you. When I was in middle school I would do just that. I would turn and walk away, go into a classroom, or even go stand next to a teacher. That way these kids could not touch me. I can recall a time when I was walking to a girl’s house.
She was supposed to be my friend and I was going to spend the night with her. As we got close to her house some other girls showed up and started saying some really mean stuff to me and wanting to fight me. It turned out that this girl was not my friend at all. That she was just trying to set me up to fight her real friends. I was not going to fight these girls, because I don’t believe fighting is a solution to any problem. And I was very thankful that we were right beside a grocery store, because I was able to turn and run into the store. I told the store manager what was going on and ask them if I could use their phone to call my mom.
The manager let me stay there inside to wait for someone to come pick me up. These girls started doing this for no reason at all. Just because they thought they were better than me and wanted to fight me. The final one that I want to talk about is how they wanted to push me down several flights of stairs. In my middle school, and as well as most other middle schools, there were several different levels. This meant that you would have to go up and down stairs to get to your other classes. As in that event as I was going to one of my classes from the next I would come into some kind of contact with these kids that wanted to fight me.
I would hear them talk about wanting to push me down the stairs so that I would get hurt. So it became very hard for me to get from one class to the next, for in fear that one of those kids was going to follow me and push me down the stairs. Now they teach kids in grade school about bullies and how to deal with a bully. This is very good that they teach them this, because it gets a lot worse when they get to middle school and high school. You have to make sure that your kids know that there are people they can talk to about bullies.
Just as well as there are ways that they can deal with a bully. We need to let them know that if they tell someone about these bullies that the bullies can be stopped. I feel that the best way to deal with a bully is to just turn around and walk away from them without saying anything at all to them. We need to make sure that our children know that no matter what another kid says to them or about them that they can get help with them. We also need to reinforce with our children that no matter what other people say that they are just as good as anyone else no matter what anyone says.