American men and woman today are no anger satisfied with their physical appearance. Self-hated is a growing issue, and is something that can completely destroy an individual. Present day media has brainwashed men and woman, females especially, in America to think that if they are not skinny with blonde hair and blue eyes, they are not beautiful. Society causes women to not only hate the “ideal” females of the world, which are in magazines and television, but “regular woman also hate themselves as a person. It is an unfortunate sight to see, that we live in a society that depends only on beauty, on how they judge someone.
In Tony Morning’s novel The Bluest Eye, shows how men and women fight to become beautiful and meet the requirements of society. Tony Morrison showed how relationships can be ruined and the self-esteems of young and older men and woman go down the drain because of social media, social norms, and society as a whole. If you are not physically fit, and have the same “beautiful” qualities as the white people with blue eyes, and yellow hair, people in today’s society, and the society in the novel The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison, people will judge you differently than a beautiful person.
Even present day people are still struggling with society and trying to meet everyone’s standards. Self- esteem is a huge impact on our lives, if you have low self-esteem you have a hard time going through your day, thinking you are not as good as everyone else, if you have a high self-esteem either you have accepted that you are “ugly” or you are considered beautiful in society. All men and women are in a never ending race to become beautiful, and in the process they ruin their self- esteem and turn against people, and effecting there relationships with friends ND family.
Now days little girls receive Barbie’s for Christmas, to love and play with. These children see how beautiful Barbie is and start to believe they are expected to look like her. Barbie causes little girls in the world to become insecure of them and eventually begin to even hate their selves. In The Bluest Eye Claudia receives a white baby doll for Christmas. Most people would expect her to love the baby doll, care for the doll, and adore it. But Claudia manipulated and destroyed the white baby doll; she absolutely hated her Christmas gift.
Claudia hatred toward the doll shows us that the doll made her feel ugly and she wished she could look like the doll, white skin, blue eyes, yellow hair. The small white doll, symbolized the “perfect” girl, in today’s society, and Claudia knew she was far from looking similar to it. In the book it stated, “Adults, older girls, shops, magazines, newspapers, window sign – all the world had agreed that a blue-eyed, yellow-haired, pink-skinned doll was what every girl child treasured. ‘Here,’ they said, ‘this is beautiful, and if you are on this day “worthy” you may have it. (Page 20-21) The doll was a reminder to her that she will never be considered beautiful to the world, because the entire world has agreed that blue eyed, yellow haired, pink skinned woman and dolls were beautiful. In the beginning of Piccolo’s life she put up with her family and friends calling her ugly, and Pectoral never used to buy into insults. When Pectoral finally gives into the world outside, and admits to herself that she is ugly, she thinks that she would have to change the color of her eyes to make the world think otherwise.
In the book it tells readers that Saphead agreed to help Pectoral et her blue eyes she always wanted “A surge of love and understanding swept through him, but was quickly replaced with anger, anger that he was powerless to help her. Of all the wishes people had brought him – money, love, revenge – this seemed to him the most poignant and the one most deserving of fulfillment. A little black girl who wanted to rise up out of the pit of her blackness and see the world with blue eyes. ” (pig. 74) Pectoral had looked at beautiful white girls as her idol; she especially loved Shirley Temple because of her perfect blonde hair and blue eyes. Pectoral even began to drink ore white milk hoping to change her black skin to white because milk is white. Every day men and women encounter some form of violence. We all see this violence in the community and inside families as well. In the book whites were the majority of the bullies and blacks just put up with the horrible comments made to them. Parents, siblings, cousins, will insult them family members.
Men and women are insulted all day by the community, and family begins to say it to each other, like it is a normal thing, because they all believe they are ugly. The reader is told that even Piccolo’s mother thought she was ugly from birth. Piccolo’s negativity may have been caused by her family’s failure to provide her with love, security, and colonization; they also failed to help her build up her self-esteem. All of these concepts are essential for any child’s development to be happy in life, and be able to know how to treat others.
Without this love and affection from her parents, she is rude to everyone; and she has no idea how to talk to another human being. On the other hand of things, things were a lot different in that generation. Parents would pick your husbands, people would judge you, even now days people judge each other for everything, but now we just deal with it more. Bullying is not conflict or a misunderstanding as being ridiculously mean for no reason, bullying is a part of growing up.
We grow up judging each other, and we grow up being judged, but honestly the opinions of others help to shape who we are today. It doesn’t matter how you choose to live your life whether you are a McDonald’s worker or a lawyer; have children or choose not to have children; live in a house, or live in an apartment, someone will judge you for it, if you live in the same town all of your life or move around to different towns, f you go to the gym 5 times a week or sit on the couch and eat potato chips and watch Sponge every day.
So honestly the comments people choose to say about each other really is not that big of a deal because everyone is judged in life and being upset about it never solves anything. Down the road in life, the people judging you are not going to matter, you will be moved to a different town, or go to a different school. There are tons of people in this world and not everyone will always judge you, you will make plenty of friends, and a lump sum of enemies. So move on from the past, and ignore the allies in your life, if someone judges you then clearly you don’t need them in your life, go out and find new friends.
Although bullying is a growing issue, and has caused many people to go into depression, or never commit suicide. The problem with judging others, is some people can put up with the bad things said about them, and they deal with their haters, others cannot take the judgment, and take things further that the average person. Sticks and stones may break our bones but words will never hurt us. But some men and women cannot handle the horrible things said to them, and they cry, or they come overly upset or even depressed.