My Perception on Family Ugh, my life, my life, my life! Where are the ones that are supposed to be here regardless? Where are the ones that I’m supposed to turn to in my time of need? Family, aren’t they supposed to be the ones that you can count on when no one else is there? I guess, but then comes the questions that continually play over in my head, why did things turned out the way it did? Why couldn’t I have been dished out a life that glitters?
Why did my mother and father abandoned me as a young child? So now goes the following question what is really the definition of family? Is it the ones who birth you? Or is FAMILY the ones that love you unconditionally and is there for you no matter what? Well my perception of family is the ones who consider me family. Like the bible says everyone is your brother and sister. So there goes to tell you that I don’t believe FAMILY to be the ones that are biological, family are the ones who care and love you unconditionally.
There are so many perceptions on how FAMILY is supposed to be. Here goes a little insight on my personal life and then you can get an idea of why my beliefs on family are my beliefs. As I child I never got the experience like many children did to experience living with either of my parents. I always knew them but they were never around because I am assuming that what they considered FAMILY was the streets instead of the children they had birthed. I was adopted at a young age by my loving beautiful grandmother who knew the importance of FAMILY. I love this lady with all my heart.
She did everything in her right power to take care of ix young children. She did everything from sailing dinners to sailing candy to having yard sales. But there was never a limit that she wouldn’t go to make sure that her grandchildren had food and a roof over their heads. No, we didn’t have the latest fashion but we had clothes on our back. She is the reason I know my biological family today. But then I ask myself would I have endured all the pain that I did due to the fact I so desperately wanted to know how 2 people can conceive a child then abandon them.
And how couldn’t they love something so precious. Like really their win pride and Joy that the lord has blessed them with. Was the LOVE for drugs or sex more important than FAMILY. I thought FAMILY was supposed to stick together and be there for one another no matter how deep or bad the situation is? I guess not because at the first sign of trouble they run out and leave you hanging. Then you’re left with no other choice but to fend for yourself or eventually allow the streets to be your FAMILY.
I know and have a lot of family members that are gang members and they have been abandoned by their birth family so they go to the streets to find the eve that they are missing from their biological family. It sad to say that I receive more love from my FAMILY from the streets then I do from my biological family. It seems to me that they feel that life is a competition so instead of helping one another become well they rather see the next one down. Sad story but so true. Family to me is the ones that are here for me. The ones I can call on or they can call on me.
Family are the ones that are your backbone when you can’t be. Family can depend on one another. My family or not Just my biological family. Like I mentioned before I never lived with my parents and I know that I am not the only one that had to go through these awful experience. But Just know that because of these experiences it has lead me to the understanding that these fairy tales of the way FAMILY is supposed to be is so false. Everyone and anyone can have their own perceptions of what they believe family to be. But these are my beliefs.
As for myself I bring home the bacon (money) because my grandmother taught me to be independent and NEVER to depend on a man for anything. So today I make sure I don’t depend no human being to teach or take care of me. I’m going to go out and do whatever it Is I need to do to get where I want to be in life. I’m not into all that fashion and social networks. I Just believe as long as I have my basic needs then everything else is irrelevant. The way the society is set up today they rather spend their last dollars on the latest fashion then to have food in the fridge.
Or rather have to beg for diapers for the next couple weeks because they wanted those rims or whatever it is but you understand what I’m trying to say. The way I was brought up was take care of home as in all my necessities then if I have extra money they I can buy all the extras. Two incomes are always better than one but the way the world is set up today everyone is for themselves. And as for the younger generations I noticed that there is rarely two incomes coming in. They rather depend on one income instead of trying to get an education or trade so that they can be successful in the long run.
The reason why I say that my family are the streets or the people that raised me is because Vive been hurt and abandoned by the nest that share the same bloodline as me. Vive been taken in by people that don’t even know me and were willing to show me the positive ropes in life. Yes I may have strayed away and gotten myself in trouble a few times. And it all relates back trying to please or be there for my biological family. I have realized today that due to the fact I have always wanted the love or approval from my biological family I have caught myself getting into numerous criminal problems because I couldn’t say “No” to family.
Now in return they will say no or turn their back on me in a heartbeat. Vive always felt as if I’m my own family or should I say the only real family I have is GOD the man up above. At least I know I can trust in him and he will NEVER take advantage of me or lead me in the wrong direction. My family is through GOD whomever he brings in my path to love and care for then that’s what it is. Today as a maturing woman I realized that no matter how wrong my family (biological) has been to me I will NEVER turn my back on them I wish I could say the same in return.
Just imagine feeling alone in this world and the only people you want to care or love you soonest. That sit hurts but regardless I continue to walk with my head up and continue to love them (Family) unconditionally and eventually they might get the clue and love me back. Sometimes family will use the interpretation of family to take advantage of the situation knowing they could give 2 bucks about you. So like I said before family are also considered people who you grew up with that are not related to you at all. So for you my family I hope you got a very clear interpretation of what I believe FAMILY to be.