In today’s society, Americans have to face the fact that the decrease of marriages raises a serious social problem throughout the country. Legal battles have repeatedly shown that the strength to prohibit or ratify gay marriage is decided by each states governing body. So why does the United States of America not have a federal law against gay marriages? David Frum, a conservative, debated on the topic of gay marriages.
Frum has many good points of why gay marriages should be approved, for instance Frum stated that “…Since two men or two women can fall in love as well as a man and woman can, we find it harder and harder to explain why they should not be issued a wedding license…” (Sullivan and Frum 119). I agree with this statement because Americans cannot tell gay couples they cannot have a wedding license without sounding like hypocrites. A wedding license is a valuable thing it can get a couple health insurance, Social Security, and American citizenship.
One of Frum’s views on gay marriage is the value of marriage to society is raised entirely from the fact that, as an institution, it rejects the “radical autonomy” that marriage seems to endorse. Marriages change the couples’ autonomy in new commitment towards their spouse, in laws, children, and others. Individuals unwilling to let their autonomy go are unlikely to discover much happiness in marriage (Sullivan and Frum 119). Also Frum states that “This new union, available equally to gays and straights, is focused on the happiness of adults, not the needs of children.
It presupposes a rigid economic equality between the partners, and cheerfully permits the stronger partner to impose disadvantageous prenuptial agreements on the weaker. It insists that marriage brings together unisex partners rather on reconciling the very different needs and duties of men and women” (Sullivan and Frum 119). In the last paragraph of Frums debate, he claims “…those of us who oppose gay marriage… believe that these new values are not changing the family-they are destroying it, and harming those within it.
The proponents of gay marriages can only get what they want by weakening Americans’ attachment to the traditional family even more than it has already been weakened” (Sullivan and Frum 120). Andrew Sullivan is also a conservative that debated on gay marriages too. Sullivan starts off by questioning some of Frums views of gay marriage. Sullivan sees why Frum might want to define marriage back to an institution that put procreation ahead of love, and that the companionship of equals, because it is the only way anyone can redefine marriage to exclude homosexuals.
Sullivan then argues that gay people are seeking the responsibilities that marriage both recognizes and encourages. Gay people are just like straight people, they have families they love and cherish that they want to sustain. Sullivan states that “Your distortion of my phrase radical autonomy typifies blindness on this point. I am clearly referring there not the responsibilities of marriage itself, but to the radical ability to choose a partner with who live the rest of one’s life (Sullivan and Frum 121).
Sullivan further elaborates on this point by explaining that African Americans were not allowed to marry white in many states, until thirty-five years ago. Sullivan believes that “Everyone should be radically free to choose the person he or she marries. But the marriage itself should carry with it all the responsibilities and obligations it traditionally has” (Sullivan and Frum 121). In the debate over gay marriage between Andrew Sullivan and David Frum, I believe that Sullivan made a convincing argument that it is hard to disagree with.
David had no facts or statistics to back himself up with, and his argument is mainly composed of his biased opinion. The dispute over legalizing gay marriages is so controversial because it conflicts with each person’s beliefs. America is a religious country. The founders of our country came here to express their religion, which was Christianity. God is referenced in the Constitution of The United States, and “In God We Trust” appears on the back of the American quarter. As a Christian, my beliefs and morals are formed by what the Holy Bible states.
In the Holy Bible, “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination (Leviticus 18:22 KJV). Also, “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them” (Leviticus 20:13 KJV). These two versus are defined as prohibitions to homosexual acts. Also the story of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis is interpreted as a punishment of homosexuality. In Romans 1:26-27 (King James Version), the Apostle Paul wrote that women and men practiced unnatural relationships through homosexuality.
There are many others versus that express homosexuality a sin. Gay marriage devalues the concept of “marriage” because it is a holy union that is meant to join a woman and man together. In the next few decades, I can see gay marriage being ratified by Congress. Although my opinion is one that not everyone will agree with, but I feel that gay marriages will destroy the view of a “traditional family”. I hope all the gay couples realize homosexuality is a sin, and they realize there is a consequence for their actions.